Reading of a couple of these posts has caused me to reflect on some of the messages that have appeared herein.
Lets remember that divorce by itself is emotionally traumatic. Divorce involving a custody battle is often devastating. I know that I personally am glad that I have stored my rifles with my father – my soon-to-be-ex gets me that mad. But the most important thing is to try and get over that and consider the needs of the child.
If you have not already guessed, courts appear to be generally shying away from sole custody in favor of joint custody. Children need interaction from both parents. And, in many instances, true joint custody can also bring relief from child support (or at least reduce the payment). You get sole custody only when you can prove that the other parent is unfit – an incredibly difficult standard to meet. I’ve seen cases where drug addicted mothers still got joint custody on the theory that they had not done drugs in front of the child and where undergoing treatment.
Now, its nice to come into this forum and bitch. But when you do, many of us automatically wonder what the other side of the story is. For all the truly lousy cases that make it into the newspapers, there are thousands more where justice and fairness prevails.
So if you want to vent – I’m down with that and can understand why. But at the end of the day, we’re all here to lend each other moral support and advice and to share in the experiences we are undergoing.
‘Nuff said. Sorry for the long post.